Most of the time, when we love someone, love starts with some expectations in our mind. It means we expect love in return. This is normal and common for everyone. But I believe, True love is always unconditional.
What unconditional love means? A feeling is something we get from someone, and when we stop getting it, we often change our behavior somehow. If we have to do something, or be a certain way, in order to receive love, that love is conditional love. In practically, when you love someone, you generally create some expectations from the person you love. Like: I love you, so you should also love me. I always try to make you happy, so you should also make me happy. There are many small expectations we create every day. you feel happy when any of your expectations get fulfilled. But whenever it doesn�t happen, it starts creating pain in you. So it means you do not love him or her, you just love only for yourself. You do all this things to make your happiness in return.
But the same time if you love someone unconditionally, and if that person doesn�t know about, what is the mean of the real love is, you are jeopardizing your life for sure. Suppose you love your partner unconditionally and your partner doesn�t care about your love or you. So still, are you going to love that person?. If you say �yes�. Of course it�s an unconditional love. But it may cause a pain for you, in the way you think about it. If you think, �It�s no matter how she treats me, I love her�, you are a perfect lover. But it�s once in a blue moon.
So what�s the scientific side of unconditional love? In a study conducted by Mario Beauregard and his colleagues, using an fMRI (Functional magnetic resonance imaging)procedure, they studied the brain imaging of participants who were shown different sets of images either referring to "maternal love" (unconditional love) or "romantic love". Seven areas of the brain became active when these participants called to mind feelings of unconditional love. Three of these were similar to areas that became active when it came to romantic love. The other four active parts were different, showing certain brain regions associated with rewarding aspects, pleasurable (non physical) feelings, and human maternal behaviors are activated during the unconditional love portions of the experiment. Through the associations made between the different regions, results show that the feeling of love for someone without the need of being rewarded is different from the feeling of romantic love.
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