Have you ever thought how some couples fight hardly, but still stay together and loving each other? It�s because they know what to dos and what to don�ts when they are in an argument or they understand each other very well mutually. But most in cases of arguments lead to separations too. So here are few concerns about the arguments for concern in an argument.
First of all, there is a myth that, always being an argument with your partner makes you a bad partner. No, that is not. But it doesn�t mean arguing with your partner is good thing. It will make you a bad partner or a good partner, in the way you are arguing with them. When a argument is getting heat, just think, whether you carried out this argument to fix the thing or to hurt your partner. From that point, you could have, better way to do this argument. if you are doing that argument to hurt your partner, of course you are a bad human being. Otherwise, if you arguing just for fix the issue, you could turn the argument in to a discussion.
However some arguments may lead to nightmares, if you do not care enough for what you tell or do, when you are in an argument.
Never threaten to your partner, like �I�m leaving you or want to break up with you�. Coz� it doesn�t mean anything when you in angry mood. And your partner also may tell the same to you. So it�s never gonna fix the thing whether you really mean it or not.
When you are arguing, if you feel you may be wrong in something, never try to just confess for hurt your partner. It means, �Yes I did that, so what?� Or �Yes� I have an affair with your friend. So?� It�ll be like, �through straw in to the burning fire�. Don�t do it ever, if you really want your partner. Never remind the old issues to justify the case. It�s because it will lead the argument to another way, for sure. It�ll only make new points to more arguments.
Never compare your partner to others. It�ll defiantly hurt you loved one instated of fixing or justifying things. If you do so they may tell, �So�You would have gone with him/her, why did you come to me?� You never gonna fix the issue in that way. If someone well known to you, accuses your partner of something, never use an argument to reveal to it, like. �My friend was right about you� but I never believe them�. It will make angry in her for both you and your friend.
Don�t get involvement of a third person as a mediator or problem solver, in between you and your partner. Because it feels, you and the third person group together and try to explain why you�re right and your partner�s wrong.
If you�re angry, just say it. Don�t pretend and say you�re fine. It won�t make you feel better nor solve the issue. Never ignore your partner after a warm argument, especially when they�re accepting for your attention. But if you really frustrated or angry with your partner just ask little Moment to be alone. It�s more better than ignoring them and making them feel miserable. Don�t blame again and again when your partner has no more to say about the issue or, when in helpless. Instead of that, make that, to a turning point toward discussion mode.
Always try being honest with your argument. If you know already that you are wrong in something, don�t just argue to pretend you are not guilty. It�s better to try to confess it. or forget your pride and tell your partner that "I'm sorry" at least. And even if you�re right and when your partner apologizes to you, you need to tell your partner that you�re sorry too because you lost your control or because you misunderstood them. It�s the easiest way to avoid ego. So being honest in an argument, will always help your partner understand what hurt you or what you need, and they�ll be able to discuss the issue instead of arguing about it.
Don�t ever raise your hand against your partner unless self defense. Especially if you are a male it is like, you are showing and using your power over the females. It�s not nice.
But after all do you really love each others? Memorize it again and again, It will solve any issues after all arguments. Trust in your love always.
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