Is it good to marry a person you have not any romantic feelings for?

What do you do if you have to marry a person, who is not in romance with you?  

Suppose there is a person, who is wealthy, intelligence and average looking, but you don�t have any romantic feeling about the person. Under certain circumstance you may need to marry this person. what do you do in a situation like above?

How deeply romantic feelings are involving for successful marriage? What would happen if you married this person? 

Well�as I described in an earlier article, romance does give a real push for very beginning in a relationship or even in a marriage. In any happy marriage, intimacy is enjoyed, and it needs to be there. But it�s not enough for long lasting relationship. Gradually we need more and more valid reasons for keep this relationship continues. So in hand, if you could start a relationship or marriage without a romantic feeling for someone, we cannot exactly say, this not gonna workout. It depends on what you do in the relationship. If you can transform this person into the character you want them to be, it will be a good reason for have a feeling about him or her. Other major thing is try to avoid being judgmental and don't give up on all the efforts you make to change them to what you yearn for. Or accept them as they are. Be understanding and start, looking carefully at the qualities that attracted you to this person, You are likely to get the spark where it has been hiding.

So on the other hand, though you try hard to change that person, how you want them to be or accept them as they are, it may not work due to lack of other reasons. And don�t forget that romantic feelings are refreshing the relationship time to time. On this condition, Husband or boy friend feels a special or unique attachment to his wife or girl friend because of the attraction he has towards her and the same applies to the wife or girl friend. This not happens without a romance. Hence, romantic attraction must be there in a progressive and promising relationship besides the other qualities. Not only that, but also if you not have any romantic feelings about them, it�s naturally start failing to give that person their marital due (basically Physical requirement) eventually forcing them to go outside marriage to seek and get what you are denying for them.

However, one day if you have to marry a person, you don�t have any romance for, effective communication is a must. Let your partner know how you appreciate every effort they put forth to make the marriage work, and lovingly help them overcome the barriers you are seeing.

Can long distance love survive healthy?

Does it long distance love survive healthy? Have you ever come a crossed this type of relationship? Carrying a long distance romance is not an easy thing, It's because, rather than holding it for a time period, it may easy to let go and make the mind up. If you ever have to take a decision on long distance love, are you willing to give it a chance? If you people have to stay separated for a time period, sometimes it may be easy to hold on. But, if you people have to stick in an unknown area for unknown time period, it wouldn�t be an easy thing to manage. But in here, hope is the key. Lets hope to lead the way. It will keep alive both of you. 
 

As I described in early article, most lovers take love and relationships for granted. But in reality, relationships need commitment and a bit of work. Most of the time, chemistry in love and understanding makes things in love seem easier and happier. When you are away from each other, it�s easier to rise up misunderstanding for very little things like, missing schedule meetings, giving phone calls on time, or engaging telephone line, or even for rumors. This makes worse, coz� either of you can�t do much to ease the tension because both of you are so far away. Other major issues are freedom and loneliness. You have more freedom to do whatever you want, without knowing to your lover. Same time you have a painful loneliness without your lover. It will make up your mind to have more friendly associations with your friends.  So� those two facts will lead easily you for another relationship. Hence Take a chance on long distance love only if both of you can keep the trust and hope for each other.  

Always trust will play the key role for long distance love affairs. You know, it�s very easy to have a great time with someone else when you�re out with a �new friend�. Likewise could your partner be up to something? Or perhaps your partner may lose interest in the relationship when they�re having so much fun hanging out with new friends? And the biggest headache in long distance love, attractive new friends. It�s very easy for one partner to get jealous or angry when the other partner gets friendly with a few new attractive people. When new, mysterious friends start posting regular comments on social web sites or start interrupting phone calls, it�s all the more reason to lose your cool. But, still if you can keep trust in your lover, that's the key point. So the good news is, this is the perfect time to realize, who is the real life partner for you and what is the real love are. Both of you will feel how much love means to both of you, when you miss one partner. Not only that, but also when you put more effort to keep your love alive, automatically it will strengthen the relationship with trust, hopes and love. And the same it will raise the more physical feelings about each other,  Long distance love can actually be the biggest relationship test that can help both of you understand how much either of you mean to each other.

All the humans are always growing and changing in to better and newer individuals. But you can�t see these changes, when you stay in together. Coz� you evolve together. But when you away from each other, and when you go after your own carriers individually, these changes will lead both of you for some other directions. And both of you may end up becoming incompatible partners even if both of you were deeply in love with each other. At the end, Long distance love may be a great test to measure the strength in a relationship.

Office love affaires are good or bad?

Most of us work office in more than 40 hours, in a week. Think about when we meet same person in that much of time, we spend hours upon hours engaging and collaborating. That dynamic can soon turn to flirting. On the other hand, if you deduct the sleeping hours and times of other activities, from the remaining day today time periods, you spend no more than, 25 hours with your family or loved one. According to a recent CareerBuilder study, 39% of employees said they have dated a co-worker at least once over the course of their career; 17% reported dating co-workers at least twice.  Almost a third (30%) of those people said they had gone on to marry the person.  So there is a huge potential to have an affair with the co-workers in an office.

But the problem is how ethical is this? Think you, as a loving husband to your wife. But at the office due to certain circumstance you are dating with a lady who is working with you in the office. Do you like, if your wife is doing very same thing, in her office? Like wise...if you are a good wife or a girl friend, would you like, your husband or boy friend have physical bond with other women in his office. Nobody which is not having any mentally illness, likes to let their loved one have physical bond with others. and the very same time you are cheating to your better-half too. So�both ways are painful. if you already, do this in your office, think twice and think whether this is ethical or not. 

And the other hand, these types of relationships are really matters to other co-workers in the office. Suppose, if you are a Boss, and you fell in love with low ranking officer, defiantly you bias to them and do more favors to her or him without proper judgments in his or her works or performances. So this may not any good for other workers as well as your institute. 

Second thing is, if something goes wrong with your informal romance, what is the consequence? An instance, I saw onetime, a decent lady (A wife) came rush in to my office and flapped a lady who is work in my office, in front of her office lover (Very high ranking officer).  So what�s his reputation or dignity? Most of the time either one has to move away from there. And the other thing is while you are having an office romance you may miss your duties too. So why do you put your career in to a jeopardy? Think well and do right.

But don�t forget that, Bill  and Melinda Gates Met at a 1987 Microsoft press event in Manhattan and married in 1994. They married on Jan. 1, 1994, on the Hawaiian island of Lanai. The couple has three children. Barack and Michele Obama Met in 1989, when Michelle was assigned to supervise Barack, a summer associate from Harvard Law School, at a Chicago firm. Married in 1992. They have two children. I guess they did these successful  marriages as were in singles.

Once, I had a Love

It was the most beautiful days in my life. But I always felt that, I�m gonna miss it soon or later. And I knew that, I never find a girl like her again for my life time. She was the perfect one for me in every way. But I couldn�t tell her that, though I loved her so much. I always kept that within my heart as a secret. I never wanted to expose my love to her. I always tried to pretend I�m just a friend of her. But As Always, I wanted to be with her and I loved her. I knew, she also wanted the same. But she always tried to refrain it. And I didn�t let her know, that I always knew she was pretending that not so. I believe we both played the same game. So...I remember the last day that I met her in a cafe in "Volgograd"�

�I can�t believe why I close to you so much Ivan� why I talk with you so much�why I�m so friendly with you so much, even I have a boy friend. You know what Ivan�I feel... I made a terrible mistake in my life, that I never can revise�.

�What is it Olya?�

�My fianc�he is not the one for me, Ivan; I could have found a better one than him. You know... Once he was begging my love. Even, I didn�t like him. But later, I felt sad about him. Then I said �yes� to him. But I know it�s not real love.�

�I�m sorry Olya�but that is the life, everything not goes as we want�

�You don�t know what the love is, Ivan. But in a way, you right, everything not goes as we want �now it�s too late for me� 

I just sighed while looking in to her tearful eyes�then there was a silent. And again she mumbled to me.

�Why I tell you those things which I never told to anyone? I can�t understand anything...Oh god� I wanted this friendship keep forever. I feel sad about us� Ivan�Even, I don�t know how we gonna end up this story...�

�It�s Ok Olya�lets we live, don�t think so much. At least we met for our lives, we know that we really like each other. we must be happy about that.� You just smiled at me innocently.

But I feel the same about us, sad. And always I think "why I didn�t meet her early in my life?"

Then we took the lunch together. I told her that, I never forget that day, and she said the same.

She married on 30^thof November in 2005. I knew one day it�s going to be happened. I never talked to her since then. Once she made me laugh, made me happy, showed me the love, gave me a hope, and at last made me cry. At least now I feel that I had a true love once and it will last in my heart forever.

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Could you love someone like a fairytale?

Well, is this possible? Yes. Once, my friend had this type of love affair. It was an amazing love story. They did travel  together.  They did shopping together, they ate together. They studied together. They did almost everything together. But they were not living together until they married. Most remarkable thing was, though they liked each others that much, he or she never proposed to each other, until the very last week before they get married. They never spoke about their marriage or their future. They trusted each other abnormally. They lived in their own world. They didn�t care if; external world is existing either. They did only love. Is it possible to exists, that type of romance? I feel it�s like a fairytale. 

   

Love is a wonderful thing. Falling in real love, feel like a beautiful fairytale of course. but it depends, if only you just know how to feel it. It doesn�t matter, who you love with, it matters how you do it and how you experience it. If you know how to fall in love with someone and enjoy every moment of it, you�ll be able to experience it and cherish it better than many others who think love is just an excuse for physical bond or a way to lean on someone else. It doesn�t matter if you�re already in love or falling in love with someone right this moment, Just try these devotions and commitments to know how to fall in love like you�re in a fairytale, and you may fall into a perfect one!

More flexible, more listening and more patients will be the main key point for such a love. as an example, suppose your partner is suggesting something for you. So�Always listen carefully to your partner, be patient whatever you heard. Then talk with your lover calmly. If it�s a bad thing or a good thing, try to show the pros and cons lovingly. Then let your partner to decide it. If he or she really loves you, never get a wrong decision. However if something goes wrong and turned it to a warm argument don�t fear about, keep remember that this argument�s end should be a good decision for both of you. Never walk away from an argument and shut the door on your partner. Even if it hurts like crazy, talk about it and always end the argument with a warm hug and a kiss.

As possible as you could, stay in touch. You don�t have to be with each other all the time, but try to at least call or text and updating present situation. Maybe, when you are shopping with your friends you could buy some gifts for you partner. So they will realize wherever you go, in minds you stay with your lover. When you have some spare times on weekends, try to spend with your lover at a park, in cinema or a picnic. In this way you can know each other�s desires and wants more and more. And always take photographs or make home videos together. Special memories of everyday moments can actually help both of you fall more in love with each other each time you watch those photographs or videos again and again.

Never lose the faith about your true love. Same time, keep remember that you�ll never clap in one hand; you need two hands for that. Likewise such a love cannot exist in a single heart. Both hearts must be equally shared, then your fairytale romance will definitely have a happily ever after.

Do you always fight with your partner?

Many couples in society are quarreling and arguing with each others, even when they love each other very much. if those arguments go deeply, they may not talk to each others for days. Perhaps you may try to resolve the case, but it may be more and more complicated at the end. Have you ever thought about this? Why this is happening in many?

If you take a closer look about this issue, you may see series of serious issues that you have not solved yet. This is characteristic of relationships and marriages where partners have a habit of postponing finding solutions to problems. Most of them think that by ignoring or just waiting for a later date to sort out a problem, things will sort themselves out. In that way they never find the solutions for issues. But After some time, a small misunderstanding finally matures into a serious problem.  Perhaps, it may be a very same issue which is rising time to time. If you do not take this up with your mate to a conclusive end which is agreeable to the two of you, more serious confrontations are underway.

Other thing is, both persons may not respect for each other.   If there is no respect, then you can say almost anything whether harmful and insolent. It�s a very bad situation and if you do this once, you will do it again and again. On the other hand, It could be that you are always looking for faults in your partner. If you really need to find faults of your partner, you will find many of them at the end of the day. And it will directly lead the way to endless fights.

In this world, no one is perfect, so the couples. We all have our shares of relationship troubles and marital confrontations.  But if you can communicate smoothly and wisely, lot of arguments can prevent.  Work together as a team to sort out your problems with love and trust. In fact, you can only succeed in all this if you work together as a team and avoid seeking to find faults. Spend your energy on the positives of your mate. It�s better to avoid fighting for invalid reasons like gossips, politics, friend�s matters, likes and dislikes of each others.  You need to humble yourself and avoid talking when your mate is talking. Then argument will automatically turn to a discussion.

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A love after life

It was late 1970 in Sri Lanka. His name was Michel De Silva. He had a pen pal called Lisa Barton from England. Not like these days, that era used only postal mails to contact each others. That�s why they call those long distance friends as �Pen Pals�. Michael and Lisa exchanged mails and pictures for years. But they never talked even by a Telephone. It�s because, Telephone was a High Luxury Item for Sri Lankans in that era. very limited people had Telephones.

Eventually they fall in love. Michel was from a middle class family, he hadn�t money to fly England. Lisa was a student. Neither, she didn�t earn money yet. But she promised to come to Sri Lanka one day for visit at Michael, as soon as possible, when she is able to do so.

 
Time passed, their love was matured day after day and they were in such a romance. They lived happily with their hopes and dreams of near future. One day Michael did post a post card that saying�

My dear Lisa,

�I�m going to hike a mountain with my friends. I Hope if you were here too, with me. With all my love�.

Your Loving Michel.

Actually it was not just a mountain hike. It is a sacred Mountain calls �Adam�s peak�. They left for the mountain hike in one fine morning. It begins to dark when they arriving the mountain site. After they had supper, started to hike. So they were hiking for hours without a rest. It was almost about to dawn, when they got their first rest. But still dark was around and was a thick mist. They thought to sit for a while. Everybody sat on somewhere they could find in the dark and Micheal went to call of nature nearby there.

He amazed what he saw there. It was Lisa; she was in nice white color lace gown.  Even he never met Lisa live before, he recognized her in a blink of an eye.

�My goodness Lisa, you are here�Gosh�I was thinking about you all the way��

�Yes I�m...�

�Why�why didn�t you tell me that you were coming to Sri Lanka... even I posted a Card that I'm coming here�did you find that? I did it five days before I come here�.

�No I didn�t �So Michel�I met you at last� my love!!!�

�Lisa� you came alone here? Where is the rest of your people? You know? My friends are over there, come�� while speaking he moved to touch her hand�.

But�. She disappeared in to the thick dark mist. He looked around�but he couldn�t find her. she vanished without any trace. He could see only dark with the mist. He couldn�t understand what he saw. So he thought, it may be an illusion, because he was thinking about her all day long. Hence he didn�t tell anything to his friends there. But he was pretty sure; she addressed him as �So Michel�I met you at last� my love!!!�

Michel arrived home after two days, His mother kept a Telegram in his hand.

Dear Michel,

�Lisa Expired due to terrible car accident. I�m so sorry�

Lisa's loving friend, Susan.

By Manu Fernando

How to fix a broken Relationship?

Just like any other things love also needs the care and attention. Many couples don�t think about this and ultimately end up unhappy relationships. The vital concern about the breaking relationship is "the love". If you really in love with, your lover you have more chances to stop this breakup. Only thing you have to do is right dedication on right places. However, sometime it�s better to breakup rather than having so many pains for trying to save it. It�s like you are trying to catch a falling glass. If that glass breaks, while you are trying, your hands may cut and you�ll hurt. So sometimes it�s better to let go. 

And if you think deeply, this breaking point is not due to one major reason. It�s a series of disappointments and resentments. At last it comes like big tide. So�it�s very difficult to stop. However it really doesn�t have to be the end of the relationship. Even the unhappiest of relationships can be fixed with a bit of understanding and love.

Most of the, time couples prefer to just end an argument with slammed doors and silent evenings, not coming to home or drunken nights rather than face the situations, or sort it out and clear the matter. We must understand that, as humans anyone can do wrong things. But name of the love we can forgive for each other. Further, never judge your partner. it takes a lot of courage and strength for your loved one to confess about something that they feel may be bad or hurtful. When you judge your partner, you make them feel worse, and you also psychologically affect them and make them shut themselves up. And once your partner feels uncomfortable sharing their dark secrets with you, they�d prefer to hide their secrets or talk to another friend rather than tell you what they really feel. And that�s never going to help your relationship. In fact, it could be one of the worst things that can happen to your relationship. And if you feel, your loved one do something wrong, just directly talk, rather than playing around or accusing. Because it�s may have a chance to prevent hot argument in near future. And let them feel how badly hurt yourself due to that case instead of shouting and quarreling. And unless an unpardonable mistake is repeated, learn to forgive and forget. Sometimes, even the best of us can make a mistake without really wanting to.

If the reason for breakup is too heavy, don�t try to fix it soon. It�s because your breakup is still fresh in both your hearts and minds and this might get in the way of your discussion.  Give a little time for that. Time is a good remedy for most of the cases. But just don�t pass the time or make a space between you and your partner. Take this time as an observation period, and when the right time comes talk with your partner. At that time both you people realized and regret about lot of things than before. So both you have good chance to discuss the matter. On the other hand, you may not be able to change your partner�s desire or an idea, but still you can change yourself to comply with them, unless it�s not major issue.  Changing oneself doesn't mean being submissive to the partner, but following a better way to be in a more satisfying relationship.

Getting over a relationship breakup

Almost everyone, in this world may got breakup relationship with their loved one, at least for a onetime in their life time. Heartbreak is one of the most difficult things to go through. But surviving after breakup will matter for how you feel it. Sometime it may cause for ruin the entire life of that person. It depends on how you deal with it. First of all think why you breakup with him or her. That reason is the key point for helps to overcome this sadness. If that reason was a good one for both of you, it�s very easy to justify the sorrow, and you could make up your mind up to that fare reason for both of you. If that decision was taken by a single person, that will be really sad situation. So how you gonna make up your mind through this situation?

Good crying is one of the main things for sadness. Never let pain for stuck in your mind.  Hard Crying will fade lot of sad things in our mind. Think every good thing that you have done to them, and think how much you loved them and cry hard. Let yourself be sad enough. You will need to allow your mind to take it all for one last time. Once you�ve cried your heart out, if you do need some time to think about everything again, tell yourself you will spend 10 minutes thinking about it and then move on. This will allow your brain to �schedule� sad time and you will feel like you have control over the situation instead of feeling miserable all the days. And Try to watch an adventure movie or and listen a up tempo song. That will defiantly reduce your sorrow. At least, for a limited time period.

Try to get busy on your life as possible as you could. Focus your mind for other things. If you are doing a job, you have a good opportunity to do so. But if you still studying, you try, more focus on your school works. If you are unable to do so at the very beginning, you may need to move with your friends as much as possible you can. Never forget to lean on your family too. They�re the ones who love you the most. In addition to that, if you work, you make this time to start making those major career leaps toward the promotion, that you have always wanted. Or, take your breakup as a chance to do something new, like learning dancing or doing aerobics. In there you may find new people too. Sometime it will lead the way to meet a fantastic person for your entire life. It�s also, volunteering and doing community service may helps to get your mind off silly things that don�t matters.

Other worse thing to eliminate is sleepless nights. Try to watch a movie or read a book until you feel the sleepy. Sleeping will give your mind rest from all the over thinking. Never spend drunken nights after breakup; of course alcohol and drugs may keep you away from your sorrow for a while. But the same time, you may do some stupid works, like making mad calls or rubbish texting. And the following day you may regret what you did last night and you may feel sorry about you, more than yesterday.  

The most important thing to keep in mind when you�re going through this first phase is, you should only limit it to one weekend. If it is a really long relationship, two weeks might be necessary. Never think that you not gonna survive after breakup, even after real perfect relationship. Human mind has a wonderful ability for adaptation. Only thing you need is a few days for that.